Jordan, a 31-year-old marketing coordinator in Denver, had been quietly taking on extra work for 14 months. He ran the company’s email newsletter, trained two new hires and covered for his manager during a long leave. His title had not changed. His pay had gone up exactly once, by 2 percent. When a coworker casually mentioned that the company had just hired someone new for $9,000 more than Jordan earned, he felt his stomach drop.
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Jordan is a composite of the kind of story many workers tell, but what happened next is useful. He did not storm into the office. He spent two weeks preparing, asked for a meeting, and walked out with a 9 percent raise and a new title. Nothing about his approach was fancy. It was just organized.
Asking for a raise is uncomfortable for almost everyone. This guide gives you a clear process: how to know what you are worth, when to ask, what to say, and what to do when the answer is “no.”
Key takeaways
- Do your homework first. Know the market pay for your role, your city and your experience before you walk in.
- Timing matters. Ask after a clear win and before your company locks its next budget, which for many employers happens in the fall.
- Lead with value, not need. Your rent going up is real, but your results are the argument that works.
- Name a specific number or range. Vague asks get vague answers.
- If it is “no,” ask what it would take, get it in writing, and set a date to revisit.
Step 1: Find out what the market actually pays
The strongest raise request starts with data, not feelings. You want at least three independent sources so no one can wave away your number as a guess.
- The Bureau of Labor Statistics. Its Occupational Outlook Handbook and wage data show median pay by occupation and region. It is free, official and hard to argue with.
- Job postings. Several states, including Colorado, California, New York and Washington, require employers to list pay ranges. Search for your job title in your city and look at what rivals offer.
- Salary sites. Glassdoor, Levels.fyi (strong for tech) and Payscale give self-reported ranges. Treat them as clues rather than gospel.
- Recruiters and peers. A recruiter will often tell you your market value if you ask politely. A friend in the same field may share numbers too.
- Coworkers. In most private-sector jobs in the U.S., employees have a legal right to discuss their pay with each other under federal labor law, though there are exceptions for some supervisors. Many employers still discourage it, but the right exists.
Write down a range with three numbers: your floor (the lowest you would accept), your target (what you realistically want) and your stretch (an optimistic figure). You will ask for something near the stretch, aim to land at the target and never go below the floor.
Step 2: Build your case
Managers rarely say yes because someone is unhappy. They say yes because they can defend the decision to their own boss. Your job is to hand them the talking points.
Make a one-page “wins” document. Include:
- Results with numbers. “I grew newsletter signups from 4,200 to 7,900 in a year” beats “I did a lot with email.”
- Added responsibility. New duties, people you trained, projects you took over.
- Savings or revenue. Time saved, errors cut, money earned, customers kept.
- Kind words. Screenshots or notes from clients, coworkers or a manager. Short quotes are helpful.
- Market data. The range from Step 1.
Keep a running file called “Brag sheet” all year. When the time comes you will not be scrambling to remember what you did in March.
Step 3: Pick the right moment
Good timing can add as much weight to your request as a strong argument.
| Good time to ask | Bad time to ask |
|---|---|
| After a big win or a successful project | During layoffs or a hiring freeze |
| During your performance review | Right after a mistake or a rough quarter |
| Before the budget is set (often fall for the following year) | When your manager is rushing to a deadline or visibly stressed |
| When you take on a bigger role | Via a quick hallway chat with no preparation |
| After a competing job offer (use with care) | Late on a Friday afternoon |
The fall is an especially good window. Many companies finalize next year’s salary budgets in the months before January. If you wait until after the pool of money has been split, you may be told “maybe next year.”
Step 4: Ask for the meeting the right way
Do not ambush your boss. Send a short message asking for dedicated time. You can use something like this:
“Hi Sam, I would like to schedule 30 minutes this week or next to talk about my role and compensation. I have put together a summary of my contributions this year, and I would value your input. Let me know what time works.”
Notice the wording. It is calm, specific and gives your manager time to prepare. That is a good thing, because a manager who has time to think is far more likely to advocate for you.
Step 5: What to say in the meeting
Here is a simple structure that works for most conversations. Practice out loud at least three times, once in front of a mirror, once with a friend.
- Open with appreciation. “I really enjoy working here, and I want to keep growing with the team.”
- Share your wins. “Over the past year I took on X, Y and Z. Here is what that produced.”
- Make the ask. “Based on my results and on market data for this role in Denver, I would like to discuss moving my salary to $68,000.”
- Then stop talking. Silence feels awkward, but it is where the other person thinks. Do not fill the gap by lowering your number.
Avoid these phrases, which weaken your case: “I feel like I deserve…”, “I’m sorry to ask…”, “Just a small raise…” and “If it’s possible…”. Replace them with firm, polite wording: “I would like to discuss…”, “Based on my results…”, and “My research shows…”.
Should you share your personal finances?
It is natural to want to explain that rent went up, that your childcare costs are rising, or that groceries have gotten pricey. These are valid worries, and many people experience them. But they are not usually persuasive to a company, because every employee has bills. What persuades is the value you add. Mention cost of living briefly if it is relevant, then pivot back to your impact.
Common responses and how to answer them
| What they say | What you can say |
|---|---|
| “We do not have the budget right now.” | “I understand. What would need to happen for this to be possible, and can we agree to revisit in three months?” |
| “Your pay is already in line with the market.” | “I would appreciate seeing how that was determined. I found numbers that were higher for similar roles. Can I share them?” |
| “Let me talk to HR and get back to you.” | “Thank you. Could we set a time next week to follow up?” (Then send a thank-you email recapping your request.) |
| “Raises only happen at review time.” | “Understood. Can we set goals now so that I can earn a raise at the next review? I would like them in writing.” |
| “We can offer 3 percent.” | “I appreciate that. Given my added responsibilities, I was hoping for closer to 8 percent. Is there some room?” |
If the answer is “no,” here is what else to ask for
Money is not the only thing that has value. If the company truly cannot move on salary, you can often negotiate for these:
- A one-time bonus that does not raise ongoing payroll costs.
- A new title that makes your next job search stronger.
- Extra paid time off or flexible and remote work days.
- Training or tuition support, such as a certification the company pays for.
- A formal review in 90 days with clear, written targets.
- Better benefits, like a higher 401(k) match, or more employer contribution to your HSA. (For more on using those accounts well, see our guide to FSA vs. HSA.)
If you do not get a path forward at all, that is useful information too. It may be time to see what other employers will pay. People who change jobs often see larger pay jumps than those who stay, which is why quietly updating your resume is a smart move even if you love your company.
A second example: Tanya, who asked and was told no
Tanya, a 42-year-old warehouse supervisor in Columbus, Ohio, asked for a raise after two years of low turnover on her team. Her manager said the budget was frozen. Instead of leaving it there, she asked, “What would it take to be considered at the next review in April?”
Her manager listed three goals: cut overtime by 10 percent, finish forklift safety training for the whole team and cover a vacancy for one month. Tanya wrote them down, emailed a summary the same day, and hit all three. In April she received a 6 percent raise. The first “no” was not a rejection of her value, just a delay she turned into a plan.
Mistakes that sink a raise request
- Waiting for your boss to notice. Good work does not always speak for itself. Managers are busy.
- Making threats. Only mention a competing offer if it is real and you are prepared to take it.
- Comparing yourself to a coworker’s salary. It can come across as personal. Use market data instead.
- Asking by text or chat. This kind of conversation is best held face to face or on video.
- Accepting on the spot. You can say, “Thank you, I would like to review the details and get back to you by tomorrow.”
- Skipping the paper trail. Always follow up with an email summarizing what was agreed.
How much should you ask for?
There is no single right number, but here are common patterns. A cost-of-living adjustment is often a few percent. A raise tied to strong performance is frequently higher. A promotion with bigger duties can be bigger still. If your pay is well below the market, you can reasonably ask for a larger correction, and you should explain why using data. Asking for a number just above your target leaves room for a middle-ground outcome that still lands where you wanted.
Frequently asked questions
How often can I ask for a raise?
Once a year is a reasonable rhythm, usually at review time. You can ask sooner if your responsibilities change a lot or you receive an outside offer.
What if I just started a job?
Wait until you have a track record, usually six months to a year, unless your role was changed significantly after you were hired.
Is it okay to ask for a raise during a recession or layoffs?
It is riskier. If the company is cutting jobs, focus on staying visible, showing results and asking again when things stabilize.
Should I quit if they say no?
Not impulsively. Look for another job while still employed, since that gives you the strongest leverage and the most security.
What if I am underpaid compared to a coworker?
Federal and state laws prohibit pay discrimination based on sex, race and other protected categories. If you believe that is happening, document what you know and consider speaking to the HR department, a state labor agency, or an employment lawyer.
The bottom line
Jordan, the marketing coordinator from the top of this story, did not get a raise because he deserved one. He got it because he did the groundwork: data, wins, timing and a calm ask. Tanya did not get one on the first try, but she turned a “no” into a plan and ended up with the same result a few months later.
If you have been waiting for a sign that now is the time, this is it. Start your brag sheet today, check what your role pays, and put 30 minutes on your boss’s calendar. The worst realistic outcome is “not right now,” and even that gives you a roadmap.
This article is general information, not legal or financial advice. Names in examples are composites created for illustration. Employment law varies by state, so check your state’s labor department for rules that apply to you.
